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Monday
Sep162013

How Many Women Are Going Bare “Down There?”

Editors's note: A few weeks ago we ran an article on "manscaping", and one of our fans on Facebook asked if we'd could do a similar article on female body hair removal. You asked, and Dr. Justin Lehmiller answers!

Female pubic hair removal is not a new invention. In fact, we have reason to believe that this practice originated with the ancient Egyptians and Greeks!1 However, the degree to which women have shaped their pubic hair has ebbed and flowed considerably across time and culture, and works of art and historical artifacts display variations in attitudes toward it. Today, female pubic hair removal is common, but not all women do it and there is considerable variation in the amount of hair removed, the methods used to get rid of it, and the reasons behind it.

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Sunday
Sep152013

The Science of Heartbreak (video)

Saturday
Sep142013

Heavy Petting

Friday
Sep132013

The State of Your Status: Are You "Facebook Official"?

"SG" asked: When is it socially acceptable to become "Facebook Official"?

Dear SG-- 

How visible to make your relationship and when to make it visible will differ across couples, and as far as we know there's no research that investigates the social acceptibility of the timing of declaring your relationship on social media. But here's what we do know about becoming "Facebook Official."

"Facebook official" is a popular term used to describe the process of changing your relationship status on Facebook to reflect that you are now in a relationship. For some, this denotes the official beginning of a new relationship. After all, nothing’s official until it’s on Facebook, right?  

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Thursday
Sep122013

Made in America: Russia’s Proposal to Remove Children from Same-Sex Parented Households

Do Russian same-sex couples with children need to begin seeking asylum in other countries? According to a Russian journalist and LGBTQ activist, that’s exactly what they need to do.Earlier this year, Russia made adoption, foreign and domestic, by same-sex parents illegal and also passed what they call the “anti-propaganda” law, which all but criminalizes same-sex sexuality. For example, it is illegal to display rainbow flags, to compare same-sex relationships to heterosexual relationships, or to speak about sexual diversity in a positive manner (even in the press). Earlier this week, things went from bad to worse when a member of the Russian Parliament put forward a bill that would remove children, both biological and adopted, from households with same-sex parents. If this new bill passes, children with same-sex parents will become wards of the state, similar to children who are deemed to have "unfit" parents for reasons of abuse, negligence, or drug addiction. Many of the recent changes to Russian laws that have been infringing on the rights of LGBTQ individuals have taken place under the guise of "protecting children" from potential sources of sexual abuse and from learning about same-sex sexuality as a "viable" alternative to heterosexuality.

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Wednesday
Sep112013

Sexual Compatibility: The Importance to Your Satisfaction

Folk wisdom gives us mixed-messages when it comes to compatibility. We hear phrases like "birds of a feather flock together" telling us we need to be compatible with a partner in order to be successful. Then we hear contradictory phrases like "opposites attract" telling us we need not be similar to our partner, but rather different for relational success.

Although compatibility isn't necessarily a synonym to similarity, they are certainly in the same family.

Perceived sexual compatibility is defined as the extent to which a couple perceives they share sexual beliefs, preferences, desires, and needs with their partner. Another form of sexual compatibility is the extent to which similarities exist between actual turn ons and turn offs for each partner emotionally, cognitively, and behaviorally.

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Tuesday
Sep102013

Save Your Money to Increase Your Attractiveness 

image source: aiyelpost.com/finance/simple-livingMoney has a funny way of finding its way into close relationships. Previously we've discussed how money makes you a worse parent, how it can make people less sensitive to others, and how men are more likely to go into debt to compete for mates. Research shows that a people view those who save their money as more attractive than those who spend their money. You can read more about how being a saver influences perceptions of things like workout habits over at MarketWatch. 

Monday
Sep092013

Another Perspective on “Speed” Dating

You might remember the 1994 movie Speed, where the characters portrayed by Keanu Reeves and Sandra Bullock have to drive a passenger-filled bus over 50mph through downtown Los Angeles to prevent a bomb from exploding and killing them all. Of course, they accomplish this terrifying feat, and by the end of the movie they have fallen in love. (If you haven't seen the movie, you can watch the 2 minute version here or think about the Fast & Furious franchise instead.)

The movie’s basic premise may be the stuff of wild Hollywood imaginations. But what about the idea that driving fast and near-death experiences can lead to attraction between two strangers? This probably seems pretty far-flung, but in fact, the producers of Speed got this part right.

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Sunday
Sep082013

You're Insecurely Attached, Charlie Brown

Saturday
Sep072013

Help Stop Homophobia and Win a Signed Copy of Dr. Lisa Diamond's Book (or $100) While You're At It

Last week we introduced you to Dr. Karen Blair's research on prejudice toward LGBTQ individuals (read more here). To further spread the word about this study and encourage people to support the research, Dr. Lisa Diamond has generously offered to provide not one, but TWO prize draws.

The Prizes

1. $100.00 Cold. Hard. Cash. - Cash you can take to the bank, the shoe store, or ask Dr. Diamond to donate back to supporting Dr. Blair's research.

2. An autographed copy of Dr. Diamond's popular book - Sexual Fluidity.

Click here to learn more about how you can win one of these prizes and support Dr. Blair's research.

(This opportunity, drawing, and prizes are being offered by Dr. Lisa Diamond and her research lab, not by ScienceOfRelationships.com. We are sharing the news about Dr. Diamond's generous gesture because we support Dr. Blair's research and know that you'll love reading Dr. Diamond's book.) 

Saturday
Sep072013

Real Men Have Curves

We have shared several articles about what makes females attractive. But what about the guys? What makes for an attractive man? Check out this spin-off of the well known Dove ad campaign.

Friday
Sep062013

Are You "Creeping"? Jealousy and Partner Monitoring on Facebook

Facebook has changed the way people share information about their relationships and the way they communicate with their romantic partners. As I discussed here, Facebook provides opportunities for people to express their relationship satisfaction and commitment, but, as we learned here, Facebook is also a forum where people can access information about their romantic partners that may trigger jealousy.1 Ambiguous posts on a partner’s wall (“Great to see you last night!”) or the addition of a new, attractive person to a partner’s Facebook friend list may incite feelings of jealousy and insecurity. In our recent research, we wanted to address the following questions: How do people respond to jealousy-provoking information on Facebook? And who is more likely to seek out additional information in response to feelings of jealousy?

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Thursday
Sep052013

For the Love of Food

You may have a loving relationship with a boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, or wife. You likely have a relationship with a mother, father, step-mother, or step-father, at least one of whom you care about a great deal. Many of you likely have relationships with children who you adore and good friends who you don’t want to live without. But you also have a relationship with one thing that will never love you back: food. In my forthcoming book, Smart People Don’t Diet: A Scientific Approach to Eating for Life, I provide information about how to have a healthy relationship with food (for information about my book, check out my blog here or get on my mailing list by emailing me at DrCharlotteMarkey@gmail.com).

Maybe you’ve never really thought about having a “relationship” with food before. After all, you have to eat. Even if you fear food (or weight gain), survival requires regular consumption. The necessary role that food plays in our lives leads many of us to have complicated relationships with food1 – relationships somewhat analogous to the relationships that we have with siblings that we love but don’t always like.

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Wednesday
Sep042013

“Being There” vs. Being There: Social Support is More Than Just a Friendly Face

We often turn to those closest to us for support when confronted with difficult situations. When financial trouble strikes, we turn to family for financial help (i.e., tangible/material support). Or, when things at work drive us crazy we turn to our partners, sometimes for advice (i.e., informational support) or simply for a warm hug (i.e., emotional support). In romantic relationships, being able to turn to a partner for support during stressful times has long been considered a crucial part of what makes a relationship work.1 Knowing that you can turn to your partner for support conveys a number of important pieces of information about your relationship. A supportive partner can be trusted to act in your best interests, demonstrates that he or she really cares about you, empathizes with you, understands you well enough to know that support is needed, and is responsive to your distress signals.

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Tuesday
Sep032013

App Review: Brownie Points

There are a number of apps out there that are designed to help people find, keep, and cultivate their relationships. Given our expertise in relationship science, we’ve taken to reviewing these apps from time to time to determine the extent to which they reflect and/or make use of relationship science (see our previous post reviewing apps here). Our latest review is for the brand-new app called Brownie Points (also on Facebook here).

What the App Does: Brownie Points allows couple members (i.e., users) to track and assign “brownie” points to tasks that partners can later exchange for rewards. For example, suppose Kate wants William to change their new baby’s diapers. William wants to be able to sleep in on the weekends and have the occasional night out with his buddies. Together, Kate and William negotiate how many points William receives for changing diapers as well as how many points it ‘costs’ to be able to sleep in on the weekend or have a night out. Once William has enough points he can exchange them for extra sleep or an opportunity to go our drinking with his brother Harry.

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Monday
Sep022013

The Labor of Love: The Workplace and Relationships

Sunday
Sep012013

How to Spend More Time Together

Friday
Aug302013

We're Supporting Dr. Karen Blair's Research on Prejudice Towards LGBTQ Individuals. You Should Too.

We're excited to announce that ScienceOfRelationships.com is helping to support and promote an important research project that is being conducted by our colleague, Dr. Karen Blair, at the University of Utah. Or, more precisely, this work will be conducted with your help. Please keep reading to learn more about the project and find out what you can do to ensure that this research happens.

Karen is a post-doctoral fellow working with Dr. Lisa Diamond; many of you know that Dr. Diamond is a leading researcher in the field of sexuality, psychophysiology and same-sex relationships. Karen is crowdfunding her research on prejudice towards LGBTQ (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer) individuals, with the goal of developing interventions to reduce hate-based violence and crime. Friends, this is really important work that we should all care about. Rather than us telling you about her research, you can hear Karen describe it in her own words in the short video below (or click here to read about it).

What's "crowdfunding"? Well, as we recently learned, it means that the research will move forward if we, as a community of folks that care about this sort of work, band together to make it happen. You might have heard of Kickstarter, where inventors and innovators can fund the production of their gizmos with the help of consumers. Karen is using Microryza, the scholarly equivalent of Kickstarter, to raise funds to support her research. She's working towards a goal of $7,500 to pay for the cost of her project, and with all of our help we can make sure she is able to conduct her research.

If every fan of ScienceOfRelationships.com donated just $1, Karen would reach her goal. But, of course, please consider supporting her research with more than that if you can afford to. We just contributed, and hope that you will too.

You can read Karen's articles on SofR here, and please take this opportunity to learn more about her research here, or in the video below.

The Psychophysiology of Prejudice: Combatting Hate Crimes with Science from Karen Blair on Vimeo.

Friday
Aug302013

10 Ways Technology Is Ruining Your Love Life

Friday
Aug302013

Podcast Alert: Those Love Geeks on "Why We Date Jerks"

Our partner site, Those Love Geeks, has just released episode 8.3 of their podcast. In this edition, Jennifer and Brian discuss "why we date jerks," among other things. Check it out here!

(PS-- Although you won't be able to tell from the podcast, we promise that Brian was sporting a bow tie while recording this episode. Our sources say that he even sleeps and showers wearing one.)