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Saturday
Feb162013

Dr. KC Haydon on WPR

Our colleague Dr. KC Haydon was recently interviewed on Wisconsin Public Radio about the role of developmental history on current relationship dynamics. You can listen here.

Saturday
Feb162013

It's Complicated

Friday
Feb152013

10 Things that TV and Movies Teach Us about Relationships

My mom used to say that watching TV would “rot your brain.” While I think she was probably right (fun fact: moms are always right), on occasion TV and movies can teach us a thing or two about our relationships. Here are ten relationship lessons that the writers at ScienceofRelationships.com have culled from TV shows and movies like Twilight, Mad Men, How I Met Your Mother, Big Bang Theory and many others:

1. Expose Yourself, Get Liked

In this case, “expose” means that you should be in close proximity so that the person sees you and can interact with you (so please keep your pants on). On How I Met Your Mother, Barney describes this idea in his “Mermaid Theory.” Read more here.

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Thursday
Feb142013

The Aerodyanmics of Love: Disney's "Paperman"

Thursday
Feb142013

Valentine's Day Recap

Thursday
Feb142013

If Charles Darwin Wrote Valentine's Day Cards...

...they'd look like this (from defectiveyeti.com):

Thursday
Feb142013

Science-Approved Valentine's Day Cards

Still searching for the perfect Valentine's Day card for your sweetheart? Look no further, we have you covered.

Click here to see all of the available cards. You can also share them on Facebook here.

Wednesday
Feb132013

Get Your Facebook Profile Ready for Valentine’s Day

What should you do to get ready for Valentine’s Day? According to YourTango, you should delete your ex-partner from your Facebook friends list. They have even designated a day for doing it; February 13th is Break Up With Your Ex Day, and this means deleting, blocking, untagging, and unfollowing your ex from Facebook and other social media.

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Wednesday
Feb132013

The Science Of Love (video)

From AsapSCIENCE (on youtube.com).

Wednesday
Feb132013

Chinese Valentine’s Day: A Sign of China’s Rising Love Culture

Wanna talk about your love life? People in China do. For the past year, I’ve been living in Shenzhen and working on a collection of true stories about love and marriage experiences since the rise of Communist China. Far from being viewed positively, romantic love often generates suspicion among the older generations and confusion among the young. This brief Valentine’s Day story, told to me by a charming twenty-two year old Buddhist woman, illuminates the clash of old and new ideas about love: 

“The first time a boy kissed me, I was fifteen, and it was Valentine’s Day. He pretended to have a school question to ask, but instead he declared that he liked me. He pressed a rose into my hand, which I tried to refuse, stammering that I didn’t like him at all. I turned to go, but he pulled me close and kissed me! I wrestled my arm away and raced into my house, very flustered. After that, I hated him, thinking he was a morally rotten boy. I had never seen anybody kiss or hug in my hometown, not even married people, and nobody said, “I love you” either. I just wanted to cultivate friendships and avoid loving anyone, so I never talked to that boy again. If people in my hometown ever kissed like young lovers do in the cities, everyone would think they were degenerates, even today.”

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Tuesday
Feb122013

How Do Same-Sex Couples View Valentine’s Day?

As far as mainstream holidays go, Valentine’s Day is perhaps the most heteronormative of all. From greeting cards and gifts, to television shows and movies, society inundates us with messages that Valentine’s Day is an occasion to celebrate monogamous, heterosexual relationships. It’s a day when men buy flowers, chocolates, and (for the more adventuresome) frilly panties for their ladies before having a candlelight dinner punctuated by kisses and declarations of love and fidelity. So on a day when almost everything seems to be about “devoted husbands” and their “beloved wives,” what are gays and lesbians supposed to do?

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Tuesday
Feb122013

On Valentine Street, Chivalry Isn’t Dead

Researchers examined whether subtle reminders of love increase men’s willingness to help. Men who had been approached by a woman asking for directions to Valentine Street were willing to help a different woman retrieve her cell phone from “thieves”, helping her almost 37% of the time. Men asked for directions to Martin Street only helped 20% of the time. The simple mention of “Valentine” unconsciously motivated men to behave in a more chivalrous manner.

Lamy, L., Fischer-Lokou, J., & Guéguen, N. (2010). Valentine Street promotes chivalrous helping. Swiss Journal of Psychology, 69, 169-172.

Tuesday
Feb122013

Bad Valentine’s Day Gifts: Do They Hurt Your Relationship?

Now that Valentine’s Day is just around the corner, you may be worried about picking out the perfect gift for your partner. Is it something he will like? Will she be disappointed by your efforts? And how is a partner’s response to your Valentine's Day gift related to thoughts about the future of your relationship?

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Monday
Feb112013

Warning! Valentine’s Day May Be Hazardous for Your Relationship’s Health

Valentine’s Day typically serves as a time to show appreciation for that special someone in our lives or as an opportunity to take a relationship to the next level. It’s a time to celebrate love in all of its forms. But can Valentine’s Day be a dangerous time for the health of your relationship? 

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Monday
Feb112013

The Sense(s) of Attraction

According to a survey by the National Retail Federation, Americans spend upwards of $10 billion on for Valentine’s Day. And in true Valentine’s Day fashion, most of the adults surveyed were expecting to purchase candy, flowers, and/or a nice evening out for their partners. If you are one of those who celebrate Valentine’s Day, you might be thinking that these behaviors sound pretty familiar. The smell of roses and cologne will fill the air. Succulent wine and chocolate will dance on our tongues. We will go out dressed in our very best. Valentine’s Day truly is a day to indulge in some relational hedonism. But is the Valentine’s Day feel-goodery helpful for our relationships, or have we merely bought into a big consumer ploy? Although the answer to this question might be a matter of opinion, some research suggests that sensual pleasures – many of those that are heightened on Valentine’s Day – actually have a lot to do with feelings of attraction and relational health.

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Sunday
Feb102013

Think You Got Game?

Sponsored Post: ScienceOfRelationships.com contributor Dr. Jennifer Harman discusses DateSim.net, her new venture to help individuals practice their dating skills.

Prior to entering my current academic career, I was a counselor and worked with families, couples, and individuals struggling with drug addictions. I really enjoyed helping people address challenging situations in their lives, set goals, and develop plans of action to make meaningful changes in their work, habits, and relationships. Although counseling was very rewarding to me, I also loved research—which precipitated my career change.

Recently, I have combined my research and counseling interests. In addition to my Adventures in Dating column, where I apply relationship science to my personal dating life, I have also really enjoyed answering questions submitted by our readers—primarily because it reminds me of what I miss about counseling—helping others. This has led me to start coaching people about their intimate relationships.

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Sunday
Feb102013

Important Advice To Keep In Mind...

 

We've dug deep into our archives looking for an article that relates to this card, and this is best we could do...

Our design team has be rolled out a series of original ScienceOfRelationships.com Valentine's Day cards, so if you haven't found the perfect one for your partner yet, we've got you covered.

image source: cheezburger.com/7041477376

Sunday
Feb102013

Grammy's Special: An Old School Hook Up

To My Valentine...

...You Are the Pen to My Cassette Tape 

(If you don't find this funny, ask your parents to explain it.)

For our articles about sex, click here. For more content related to sex between inanimate objects, click here.

image source: i.imgur.com/pkRQ5zg.jpg

Saturday
Feb092013

Scientists Love Valentine's Day Too

Saturday
Feb092013

Tyrants Love Valentine's Day

We don't know how their political ideologies impacted their relationships (click here for more on politics and relationships), but maybe they should read more about the color red (click here for more on red and attraction).