Entries in dependence (3)


"As Strong as its Weakest Link": How Your Partner's Chain of Events Affects Yours

If you’ve ever listened to Beyoncé you probably understand the importance of having independence in a relationship. On the other hand, relationships in which your partner completely dependent on you are never pretty. But even more important (and less talked about) than these two concepts is the amount of interdependence in your close relationships. As it turns out, interdependence is a major determinant of relational success.1

So what is interdependence? Well, it depends on what type of relationship you’re talking about. Your most intimate relationships are the most entangled, which means that these people have the most influence on your daily goals and activities.

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Give the Gift that Keeps on Giving: Relationship Insurance

After the combo of Christmas and Valentine’s Day, you may be delighted that we’re between gift-giving holidays. But for me, even though the spending has lulled, my thoughts often wander towards the topic of the perfect gift. 

In a previous post, a colleague suggested that instead of traditional, material gifts, partners may be better served to use their skills to provide a needed service. For example, “fixing an iPhone app or helping to solve a problem that you are having from work” would go a long way as a testament of esteem and affection. As it turns out, her suggestion of providing helpful behaviors to your partner may not only be an effective strategy for the holidays, but one that rings true all year long.

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For Better, or Worse? Homer & Marge Simpson, Part 2

In an earlier post, I began analyzing the marriage between Homer & Marge Simpson, one of America’s most enduring fictional TV couples. As mentioned then,  analyzing the stability of any relationship can be done via application of the Investment Model,1 which states that commitment between partners derives from three sources: (1) satisfaction, (2) dependence (based on perceived alternatives), and (3) investment level.2 Whereas Part 1 of this series focused on Satisfaction, in Part 2 we move on to the second variable: Dependence.

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