Entries in fighting (10)

Monday
Mar312014

What’s a Parent To Do?: Raising Teens to Having Healthy Relationships

One of the more alarming trends in the adolescent and young adult dating world over the past few decades is the increase in reports of dating violence. Specifically, more than 50% of adolescents with dating experience report some past dating violence, whether as perpetrator or victim.1 Moreover, today’s adolescent dating violence, which often results from conflicts that get out of hand, generally shows no gender bias: both young women and young men are equally likely to perpetrate (and be victims). When it comes to public health issues, the prevalence of teen dating violence is a pretty big deal, which is why the Centers for Disease Control has an entire section of their website dedicated to educating people about healthy teen relationships, and researchers are giving considerable attention to the issue.

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Wednesday
Jul102013

How Sleep Influences Your Relationship

How did you sleep last night? Did you wake up this morning feeling refreshed and energized, or were you fatigued and sluggish? Your answers to these questions may provide insight into how you will interact with your romantic partner today.

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Wednesday
Nov022011

Parents’ Divorce Affects Kids’ Future Relationships

When parents divorce, does it influence their kid's views about divorce and the stability of their future adult romantic relationships? It depends on how children view mom and dads’ relationship prior to the divorce. Those who recalled observing their parents fight had more favorable views of divorce as young adults. But those who saw less conflict prior to the divorce had more negative views of divorce and experienced more stable relationships as adults.

Cui, M., Fincham, F. D., & Durtschi, J. A. (2011). The effect of parental divorce on young adults’ romantic relationship dissolution: What makes a difference? Personal Relationships, 18, 410-426.

Monday
Oct032011

What are We Fighting About?: The Top 15 Sources of Conflict in Relationships

Relationship conflict is inevitable. To identify the most common sources of conflict, over 100 participants listed the ways that men and women could upset, irritate, hurt, or anger each other. Researchers then analyzed subjects’ responses to identify the most central themes, or common topics, in the list. Based on this analysis, here are the top 15 behaviors that can upset a romantic partner, ranked in order by the frequency each behavior was listed (from the most to least mentioned):  

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Wednesday
Aug242011

Make-Up Sex: It’s for Real

Have you ever wondered why, after a heated argument with your boyfriend or girlfriend, he or she suddenly looks so…yummy? It’s actually pretty common for romantic conflict to increase feelings of sexual desire, and researchers know why.

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Monday
Aug152011

In Sickness and In Health: Pick Your Battles! (w/ videos!)

So, last month my husband and I had one of those rare monster fights. The kind where I say really intelligent things like “oh ok, so I’ll just never state my opinion again!” with smoke coming out of my ears. And he was all “You’re a crazy person!” and points to the giant snarl on the side of my head as evidence. I remember I was still amped up, even after the fight was over. My stomach was all twisty, my heart was still pumping hard, and it felt like every muscle was still clenched, even though we’d made up (and I’d brushed my hair)! It turns out that these fights—even the small snarl-free ones—can take their toll on us, and how couples behave during disagreements matters, even on the cellular level.

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Tuesday
Aug022011

Relationships on the Jersey Shore - Are You Ready for Season 4?

With Season 4 of Jersey Shore set to premiere, we thought our readers should prepare for the show by catching up on our previous Jersey Shore articles.

Note: Please also feel free to prepare for the new season by getting a spray tan and commencing with abundant fist pumping. That is all. 

Thursday
May262011

How Do I Change My Partner's Behavior? 

Recently, I spoke with Dr. Nickola Overall for Relationship Matters, the official podcast series of the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships. The interview was about the exciting research she’s recently published that directly addresses the dos and don’ts in trying to change partner or your relationship.

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Wednesday
Apr202011

Relationship Conflict: Leaving the Fight In the Car

Maryhope here again, offering up my personal life in the name of science (actually, I think that might be the definition of grad school). Anyway, Ethan, my husband, and I were recently invited to a friend’s house for dinner—an exciting prospect in a city that even after 4 years still feels new to us. Ethan was going to pick me up after drinks with his friends, then we’d head over to the dinner party. No problem. Well Ethan was late. Then he was later. I got mad. Then I got madder.

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Tuesday
Apr052011

A Link Between Controlling Partners and Relationship Violence

Data from 600 young women reveals that most (68%) experienced a relationship partner's controlling behavior; approximately 10% experienced sexual or physical victimization while 25% were were prevented from seeing friends or were ignored by the partner. Women experiencing controlling behaviors were 2.5 times less likely to honestly report relationship violence.

Catallozzi, M., Simon, P. J., Davidson, L. L., Breitbart, V., & Rickert, V. I. (2011). Understanding control in adolescent and young adult relationships. Archives of Pediatrics and Adolescent Medicine, 165, 313-319.