Entries in mental health (3)

Thursday
May022013

(Lack of) Partner Support and Criticism Predicts Depression

NPR recently reported on a new study by Dr. Alan Teo and colleagues on the link between relationship quality and depression. Those of you with critical, unsupportive partners should start looking for a therapist with a comfy couch soon!

Click here to check out NPR's coverage of this work.

Wednesday
Apr182012

Can We Overcome the Damage I Caused to Our Relationship?

A reader recently posed a question to us, which has been rephrased and shortened to protect the submitter’s anonymity:

Up until a few weeks ago, I was in a deep, passionate, relationship with a young man. We dated for a little over a year until things began to go bad. We had very similar, difficult child childhoods. We struggled through a lot together, even talking each other out of suicide.

Unfortunately, a couple months ago, I started having serious nightmares that lasted for weeks. I have suffered from depression and anxiety and take medication, but have a fear that I will become addicted to them (my mother suffers from addictions). I decided to stop taking my medications cold turkey and try to fix myself without using pills. This was the worst decision I have ever made in my entire life. I began to have anxiety attacks, cut myself, and have intense desires to end my life. I never told my boyfriend I had stopped taking my mediations. He was there for me, but he couldn't bear watching me destroy myself. He blamed himself for not being able to help me.

We broke up, and it was the hardest thing. Afterwards, I was not in my right mind—I was still off my medication. I pursued him even after we weren't dating anymore; I even had a panic attack in public while trying to talk to him. It has now been a month since our breakup, and he has started dating someone new. We still hang out alone together about once a week and we're always laughing and giggling. He has faith that I can change for the better, and I finally feel the same. I got help, went to counseling, and am back on my medication. I feel stronger than ever. I'm not entirely myself, but I feel as though I'm on my way.

I truly believe that we are soulmates. I love him to death. He's my prince, my Jack Dawson, my hero. So, my question for you, is do you think there is any chance of us getting back together?

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Tuesday
Mar272012

Trust: It Does a Body Good

image source: reputation-communications.comTrust is good for your relationship, but does it also benefit your physical health? A sample of married, engaged, and dating couples completed surveys every six months for for two and a half years. Partners experiencing more trust in their relationships subsequently had lower depression and anxiety, which in turn were associated with enhanced mental and better physical health. Exercising trust in your relationship is good for your mind and body. 

Schneider, I. K., Konijn, E. A., Righetti, F., & Rusbult, C. E. (2011). A healthy dose of trust: The relationship between interpersonal trust and health. Personal Relationships, 18, 668-676.